Relationships

5 Big Lessons I Learned After Losing a Legacy Friend

“You can’t force anyone to value, respect, understand, or support you, but you can choose to spend your time around people who do.” ~Lori Deschene
There’s a term in IT called “legacy systems.” These are computer systems that are ancient and abysmally outdated yet are kept around because organizations have centered some of their operations around them.
The exercise to replace a legacy system is challenging and possibly even painful because of the interwoven network of dependencies placed on these systems—but it’s not impossible.
The benefits of replacing a legacy system with one that is aligned with the current operational … …

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How to Break the Cycle of Painful, Dramatic Relationships

“No matter how far we come, our parents are always in us.” ~Brad Meltzer
Had you asked me five years ago, before my healing and personal growth journey began, if my upbringing and childhood wounds were shaping the choices I was making in relationships, I would have scoffed at you and said, “No way. Are you kidding?”
Somehow, I had normalized the dysfunction I grew up in: the absentee father, the mother with mental illness, the lack of stability and safety, the enmeshment and codependency, the attachment wounds that left me spending a lifetime searching for someone or something to … …

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How to Overcome Relationship Conflict with the Internalized Other Practice

“You can only understand people if you feel them in yourself.” ~John Steinbeck

In the early stages of my relationships, I spent a lot of time trying to figure out what the other person was thinking. Hours of pondering whether they liked me, over-analyzing every text message, and worrying that every fight meant it was over.

Over time, in a good long-term relationship, these challenges settle down. While longevity is not the only marker of a successful relationship, feeling safe and comfortable with someone over a decent stretch of time is undoubtably lovely. All those fear-based worries and insecurities fade, … …

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I Tried This Exclusive App & I’ve Never Seen More Datable Options In One Place

An app for serious daters. …

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Online Dating Is Way Easier If You Know How To Spot These Red (& Green) Flags

Red flag, green flag. …

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Study Says This Common Habit Could Spell Disaster For Your Relationship

You probably don’t even realize you’re doing it. …

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When It’s Time to Let People Go: How I’ve Lightened My Emotional Load

“Love yourself enough to let go of the people, thoughts, and habits that are weighing you down.” ~Karen Salmansohn
More than a year ago I started unpacking and cleaning out my ‘backpack’ of life in a different way.
I have always tried to remain friends with exes, and even though we didn’t necessarily socialize together, there was still the odd keeping in touch, helping them with a favor, or “Happy Birthday” text.
While most of them are generally nice people, the truth is that if I never dated them, I probably wouldn’t be friends with them now. We’re just on … …

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How To Stop Criticizing & Communicate Productively, From A Marriage Therapist

When you criticize your partner, you actually hurt yourself. …

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This Makes Sex So Much More Pleasurable + It’s Natural & Organic

Found: The easiest way to orgasm. …

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When the People We Love Shut Us Out: What I Now Understand

“Have patience that is all unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like closed rooms, like books written like a foreign language.” ~Rainer Maria Rilke

I started thinking about a distant relative on a walk in


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How To Avoid One Major Source Of Relationship Conflict, From An Expert

You’ve probably experienced it firsthand. …

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How Women Over 50 Are Finding The Perfect Position For Pleasurable, Pain-Free Sex

Reviewers swear it’s a game-changer. …

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3 Step Method to Elevate Your Leadership Through Listening

Listening connects us to others and builds relationships
The post 3 Step Method to Elevate Your Leadership Through Listening appeared first on Addicted 2 Success. …

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Overcoming Codependency: Breaking the Cycle of Unhealthy Relationships

“A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior.” ~Melody Beattie
From a young age, I felt insecure in my own skin. I was a …
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How Women Over 50 Are Bringing Excitement (& Orgasms) Back Into Their Sex Life

How to bring the excitement back to the bedroom at any age. …

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How To Avoid “Roommate Syndrome,” According To Relationship Experts

The roommate effect, is a common occurrence for couples that have been living together—but that doesn’t mean it can’t be overcome. …

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How Following Our Instincts Now Can Protect Us from Pain Down the Line

“There is a voice inside of you that whispers all day long, I feel this is right for me, I know that this is wrong. No teacher, preacher, parent, friend or wise man can decide what’s right for you. Just …
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How To Tell If You’re In A Toxic Relationship (+ What To Do About It)

It’s important to protect yourself. …

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Calling All Singles: 5 Ways To Stand Out On Dating Apps This Summer

Number 1: Be responsive …

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How to Say No to Friends And Family (With Sample Statements)

Saying ‘no’ can be one of the toughest, most unsavory tasks we undertake, especially when it’s directed towards the people who mean the most to us. You might grasp the imperative of safeguarding your time and energy – they’re finite resources, after all. Still, that comprehension can fade into the ether when you’re caught in … Read more
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How Boundaries Help You Stay True to Yourself (And Two Practices to Try Today)

“The more you value yourself, the healthier your boundaries are.” ~Lorraine Nilon
I want to talk about the direct correlation between boundaries and self-love. Because when we truly love ourselves and have a healthy self-worth and self-concept, setting boundaries becomes …
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Are You Outgrowing Your Family? 6 Effective Ways to Manage This

“You can’t force anyone to value, respect, understand, or support you, but you can choose to spend time around people who do.” ~Lori Deschene
I always felt somewhat different from my family growing up.
I didn’t have a terrible childhood—I …
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Why I Don’t Regret That I Didn’t Walk Away from My Relationship Sooner

“The butterfly does not look back at the caterpillar in shame, just as you should not look back at your past in shame. Your past was part of your own transformation.” ~Anthony Gucciardi 
Before I finally grew the courage to …
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I Love This Dating App So Much, I Paid For A Lifetime Subscription

Plus, my secret to getting more matches …

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Why Relationships Matter Most: We’re All Just Walking Each Other Home

“We’re all just walking each other home.” ~Ram Dass
Living in the hyper-individualist society that we do, it’s easy to forget our obligation to those around us. Often in the West, we are taught to prioritize ourselves in the unhealthiest …
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